Relationships and perfumes….

I was sitting and wondering the other day…what can you best compare a relationship with??...yeah I was quite inactive over the weekend…so just entered into a thought process...and then I came to the conclusion that “it”…the relationship I mean…can best be compared to a "perfume"… …now see we have all had one favorite perfume at some stage in our lives…the one which we have loved the most…the first one…new excitement…new compassion…coming at an early stage in life…an epitome of magic for us….just like the first time we apply a perfume in our growing days…and feel absolutely wonderful about it....I personally feel that all of us overrate it…coz “first” of everything is “first”….its like…the way a woman feels the first time she’s pregnant is much more special than the following times…but that’s not the point here…not many of us are lucky for “it” to be with us for the rest of our lives….in fact if we look around…most of us would be with ppl whom we came across after the first very sad break up!!!

When something goes wrong with the first one…could be anything…like we outgrowing it…or “it” causing irritation…or simply not working out...doesn't make anyone any less than the other….there are many temporary perfumes that keep coming and going…an it’s an easier way to get over the magic of the first one …but the effect of the temporary ones doesn’t last for long…:)

And then suddenly a "special" perfume walks into our lives again…with whom we love spending time…has been with us for the longest after the first one …who likes us and we like it too…technically everything’s fine with it…but we are still not sure of it….its very different from us….at the same time we can’t do without it either….coz it makes us feel secure…has been with us during both good and bad times….and we have shared beautiful moments with it….we know it’s the one we can go to when we are stressed and lonely and it knows us the best…. its like we would rather apply it than anyone else…

Amidst of all this there is one perfume with which we share a wonderful platonic relationship….who clears us of all the bad thoughts….and guides us as a friend and a philosopher…it’s just probably the shortest distance away….

Then finally as we mature with time…we come to terms with the “final” one…the perfume which we decide will stay with us for the rest of ur lives….we will never let ourselves outgrow it…even if its imperfect many times or there are certain things that we find wrong in it…we accept it for what it is….that would be our life long perfume…errr relationship…leaving all other perfumes to be just our friends…but the “life long” one being our “life partner”….but then again…that life long might be the “first” one, the chances of which are very bleak…or the “special” one…or even the “platonic” one in some cases…

Now it makes me wonder…how do we identify the “life long” one?? what would I want to do?? My question here is…is it more important to act from the mind sometimes or from the heart always??….I am myself confused….I would probably not let the “special” one go coz it would have come across me at a much more matured stage of life :)…I would be understanding it much better…it might call for some effort from both ends…but I m sure slowly and steadily we would fall in love with it…its important to work towards it though…me thinks its much better than investing effort in knowing a completely new one all together :)

On the contrary if we decide to let the “special” one go…then?? Sounds scary…coz wat if we let it go now….and need it at a later stage...and when we do decide to go back to it...its not available any more :(..Hmmm…the “special” one seems like the safest bet provided we have lost out on the first one ;)….having said that….how about a combination of all of the above….now that would be something interesting ;)…